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I don't know why I didn't come to you sooner. I wasted all the years on sleeping pills and all kinds of meds. Thanks to your holistic plan and coaching. It was not an easy process, but I can sleep without meds now, and I am overall healthier and happier. I no longer depend on the meds. Thank you.
I never knew that it was CPTSD that had haunted me, although I knew that I had a difficult childhood with abusive, narcissistic parents. I had struggled my entire life, over 5 decades, thinking that I was a pathetic mess that was doomed forever. I sought out Lillian's help when I was at the verge of falling apart, without much optimism in her ability to help me. I thought, for her online photo and the way she looked in person, that she was too young to relate to me, plus our cultural differences. It turned out I was wrong. She was not as young or naive as I had thought. Cultural differences were not a problem. In fact, she was good at addressing cultural issues. More importantly, she was knowledgeable and compassionate, and she pushed me out of my comfort zone as needed. She seemed wiser every time I talked with her. My CPTSD symptoms have significantly improved that I am able to be present and can enjoy life now. I could not see the end of the tunnel before I worked with Lillian. Now, I am out of the tunnel and enjoying the light.
As a transgender woman planning for transitioning, I was extremely anxious before meeting with you. I really appreciate your understanding and support. I felt very comfortable talking with you. Thank you.
Because of your narcissistic abuse articles, I finally understood what happened to me, and then I could help others understand my experience, so that they could support and help me. And I finally decided to get out of the domestic violence. Thank you so much. I sought your help because of your articles. Your words have helped me a great deal! You must always remember that you saved me and my child. Thank you!
Lillian is empathetic and supportive. I have become more confident since working with her. She challenged me in a safe way, so I broke some of my old patterns for the better. My life has made many positive changes. In addition, my anxiety issue greatly improved after just ONE hypnotherapy session with her. I had been on anti-anxiety and sleeping meds for many years, and I don't need them anymore!
Lillian was so supportive when I went to her because of my marriage conflicts and the upcoming divorce. It was calming and empowering to have her in my corner. She never judged me when I worried that she would.
I want to tell you, thank you for posting the information of narcissists on your website. I had been controlled by a high functioning narcissist for many years, and paid a heavy price, but I never figured out why, until I developed CPTSD. Later he cheated and repeated abuse me, and the social worker intervened, helped me find counseling. It is exactly like what you say: I’m like a drug addict trying to quit and going through withdraws when it comes to someone like that. It is a really difficult journey. Because of living in the verbal abuse, psychological abuse, personal attacks for a long time, even though I knew that he was abuse, sometimes he felt like my soulmate, and I got manipulated. Fortunately, I left him the last time he abused me, and I finally learned the phrase narcissistic personality disorder. During my withdraws, I read your website over and over every day and began to understand. I followed your words, and now, after one year, I am recovering to who I really am, and I can communicate and deal with him. I believe that a lot of people don’t know what they run into, because no one talks about this with you growing up. I learned it from my counselor. I want to tell you, you must continue promoting this knowledge to decrease victims, or help the victims cope. They (narcissists) are like poisonous candies. You are like possessed after you eat it, and you lose yourself. Thank you. I am a woman who stood up again because of your website. I will continue supporting your website in the future, and hope the whole world will know about your site… Narcissists are difficult to resist and get rid off. No matter how long, you are still getting attacked and hurt by them. Whenever I feel uncertain, I come to read your words, and then I can go grey rock and no contact in response to deal with his traps and attacks. I have been fighting. Your website and Facebook Page are my best teammate in this war. As soon as I knew that your translated CPTSD book would be available on 2/17, I pre-ordered it immediately. I read a lot of books about personality before. Your analysis and description match the reality best. Your words are most empowering to the victims. I do not believe that I could ever get out of the vortex without your website…
I read your articles on narcissistic abuse. Your articles are the most professional that I have found in Chinese writing. Your writing is so comprehensive that I believe that you are a true, rare expert in Taiwan meeting international standards, and you incorporated and applied important multicultural observation that no one else has.
When I saw your tears in your eyes for me, I was touched. It touched me deeply. I never felt so cared for and loved before. It was when I began to fully trust you. I know that you truly care about me and want the best for me… I now feel more present, calm, and relaxed than ever before. This is a new and good feeling. I feel better.
I wish I had come to you sooner. You really got it like no one else, and you care. I can't thank you enough. I had lost all faith in the so-called "mental health professionals" or "helping professionals," because they seemed to treat me just like a "job." You treated me like a real human being, and I could feel that you gave your heart out to me, sometimes with brutal honesty. You have restored my faith in trusting a professional. You have made me feel worthy.
I was recommended to meet with Lillian Chen, as a potential Executive Coach, regardless that I had over 14 years of entrepreneurial experience in successful start ups across Greater China. Considering initially whether or not to engage at all a Executive Coach was a decision fraught with a collision of self pride and quiet intrepidation due to not knowing if there would be tangible beneficial outcomes. Ultimately I asked myself that if all of the world's very best sports men and women have a talented person coaching them, then why couldn't I? I knew redefining my self skills were important so as to realign myself for the future and equally reflect on the lessons learnt from previous mistakes, made the decision easier. Engaging Lillian as my Executive Coach has been beneficial in further developing the range cognitive business skills I would need for 2015 and beyond, and also helpful in assisting me in retaining and re-sharpening only the best existing mental tools in my entrepreneur's tool box. Making the commitment to working with Lillian has been rewarded with positive, often challenging and ultimately enlightening experiences. Whilst not always making it easy, Lillian has pushed me to find the solutions and new strategies to develop myself as the entrepreneur I want and need to be. Having Lillian as my Executive Coach has already delivered enhanced results in my various responsibilities as a business owner, investor, board director and leader of people. I highly recommend that if you already think you know all there is to know, then you should strongly consider engaging Lillian Chen to assist you as your Executive Coach to help you find the next level of success for your business and yourself.
I only spoke with Lillian for a Compatibility Consultation. At first I thought, "What a hassle! Why can't we just go ahead and start counseling?!" Well, now I am glad that we started with the CC. She was professional and honest. After a thorough and professional interview, she let me know that she might not be the best person to help me, and she referred me to someone else when I did not know what other options were out there. She also gave me other advice. I could feel that she really cared about my best interest, even when she did not believe that I would be her client. Although I am not working with her, I really appreciate and respect her honesty and kindness.
Your speech was inspiring and engaging. You challenged me to think about things I've never thought of, and yet they are important, such as ethics, competency, professionalism, client's best interest, philosophical issues and more. I've learned to be more humble and respectful to my clients. I feel that I have grown to a higher level in my counseling profession.
Thank you, Lillian, for supporting me raising my troubled grandchild. You have helped me and my grandson develop a less chaotic life. I was not sure at first if our different racial and cultural backgrounds would be a problem for you to help us. Later I was surprised to find out you understood us better than anyone else. You are our "homie." I have never felt any wall between us, and I have been very comfortable working with you.